There’s a misconception in real estate—and honestly, in sales in general—that the person who talks the most wins.
That couldn’t be further from the truth.
In fact, some of the best negotiations I’ve ever been part of didn’t come from saying more… they came from saying less.
The Problem With “Over-Negotiating”
I see it all the time. An agent feels like they have to justify their role in the transaction, so they jump in with opinions, explanations, and commentary—sometimes when it’s not needed.
What starts as “adding value” turns into overextension.
And instead of helping the deal move forward, it creates friction.
Buyers and sellers don’t want to feel like they’re being pushed or “handled.” They want to feel like they’re being heard.
That’s a big difference.
👉 If you’re constantly talking, you’re not listening.
👉 If you’re not listening, you’re missing opportunities.
The Power of Silence in Negotiation
One of the most underrated tools in negotiation is silence.
Let the other party speak.
Let them process.
Let them reveal what really matters to them.
You’d be surprised how often someone will negotiate against themselves if you simply give them the space to do it.
This is where strategy comes into play. It’s not about being passive—it’s about being intentional.
Sometimes the strongest move you can make is… nothing at all.
The “Oprah Moment” (And Why It Works)
I call it the “Oprah moment.”
Think about how Oprah Winfrey conducts an interview. She doesn’t dominate the conversation—she creates space for people to open up.
That same concept applies directly to real estate.
When I’m sitting in a listing appointment, I’ll often take a step back and let the seller talk about their home. Not just the features—but the why behind it. The memories. The upgrades. The pride.
That tells me everything I need to know:
- What they value most
- Where they may be flexible
- What’s going to matter during negotiations
And more importantly—it builds trust.
Because people want to feel heard, not managed.
Why “Steamrolling” Doesn’t Work
We’ve all dealt with someone who just won’t stop talking in a negotiation. They push, they press, they try to control the outcome.
It rarely works.
In fact, it often does the opposite:
- It puts the other party on the defensive
- It creates resistance
- It shuts down communication
Negotiation isn’t about overpowering someone—it’s about aligning with them.
And that starts with listening.
Listening Creates Leverage
Here’s the part most people miss:
Listening isn’t passive—it’s strategic.
The more you listen, the more information you gather.
The more information you gather, the better your position becomes.
You can:
- Structure offers more effectively
- Identify pressure points
- Solve problems before they become deal-breakers
That’s how deals come together—not by talking louder, but by understanding deeper.
Real Estate Is Still a People Business
At the end of the day, this business isn’t about contracts—it’s about people.
And people don’t like feeling sold.
They like feeling understood.
If you can master that, you’ll not only negotiate better deals—you’ll create better experiences for everyone involved.
Thinking About Buying or Selling in Central Florida?
If you’re looking for someone who knows when to speak—and more importantly, when to listen—I’m here to help.
📍 David Dorman
CENTURY 21 Carioti
2747 McGuire Road
Ocoee, Florida 34761
📞 407-948-8295
📧 david@daviddorman.com
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